I am actually surprised more cyclists aren't killed since a lot of them don't follow the rules of the road (or any rules for that matter). Do they not teach bicycle safety in school anymore? I was taught to dismount the bike to cross an intersection. Wear a helmet is also a good rule. For even better safety, wear a safety vest especially at night, dusk or dawn. You would be surprised how many cyclists wear black at night. I have seen a disturbing new trend along Eglinton Ave. and that is the amount of cyclists on the road when there is a perfectly good bike path completely separated from the road. Not sure why they would go on the road. Since I drive a commercial vehicle, I do change lanes to allow cyclists the full lane but there have been several times (downtown Toronto) when a cyclist in a bike lane darts out into my lane for no reason without looking. I think some people are trying to get killed and the speed won't make any difference.
I agree with a lot of what you said, but not all of it. The reason cyclists don't go on trails next to roads sometimes is because they're poorly designed. A lot of times, they have harsh curbs and the button to cross is inconvenient for a cyclist to press. I used to have similar thoughts to you last year, when I rode a mountain bike. This year, I got a road bike, and now I completely get it. The curb bumps really hurt. Would drivers be ok with having speed bumps at every traffic light? The cross buttons are so far out of the way that I have to unclip, get off my bike, press the button, and come back and clip in most of the time. Then you have right turning vehicles that don't understand that I need time to clip in; I've been rushed by cars enough times and nearly fallen trying to clip back in at the start of the walk signal that a lot of the time, I feel safer passing through when there are no cars around. That's not right.
Your point about bikers not obeying laws (ex. not waiting their turn at stop signs), not having proper lighting at night, etc. are completely valid, and I wholeheartedly agree. I would add that we need regulations similar to German's StVZO (
http://www.light-test.info/en/faq-en/169-stvzo-bike-lamps-regulations) as those obnoxious bright flashing lights need to stop. Car headlight beam patterns are closely regulated, but this is not the case with bicycle headlights, and you end up with a lot of bikers with no lighting or dangerously bright (1000lm+) conical shaped beams that resemble flashlights aimed straight into other driver's, cyclists, etc. eyes rather than illuminating the road.
One last thing I'd like to say is that "cyclists" aren't a very specific closed off group. Pretty much every cyclist I know is also a driver, pedestrian, etc. at other times. When I drive, I respect pedestrians and cyclists the same way I'd want to be respected when doing those activities. The point is to be courteous and safe, and that goes both ways. I don't mind slowing down and moving through a stop sign when it's safe to do so, but blowing through it and making everyone else wait when it's not your turn irritates me to no end.
Anyways, to get back on topic, I just hope we get proper biking infrastructure where there aren't harsh curbs at every intersection, and where cyclists don't have to dismount and press the pedestrian walk buttons at every intersection.